omg the question is not about you at all. I mean yes, I am willing but I want to make it clear that my question has nothing to do with you or your dick or piercing it specifically.
I'm just wondering. If- Do you remember last month when your vampire friend was polling everyone on are you a top or submissive, etc. How do you- how do you figure out something like that.
Because until... really just months before arriving, the idea of having sex with someone never- I just didn't think much of it. Then by the time the inclination did occur to me, it wasn't a priority.
And now things are different, obviously. Sex is fun... especially with Blue, like very fun. But also- surprising? In that there are certain things that I really liked or wanted, but didn't expect necessarily. And sometimes I feel like that's the more interesting part? But sometimes the things that I want are. Contradictory? Or. Different depending on the person.
Or... makes me... kind of anxious also. Because of- another reason.
How do I know if it- it's just a sex thing, or something [ weird? fucked up? latent trauma expressed as irregular attachment issues?? ] ...else?
Also this entire conversation is privileged and you are sworn to secrecy Andy.
Okay, first, I'm gonna use proper capitalization so you know I'm serious about this. I'll never talk to anyone else about this, you're very safe.
On the Dom/sub and top/bottom thing, it's a thing you figure out with experience. It's like going to a restaurant and ordering an unfamiliar dish, sometimes it's just not your thing, sometimes it takes a few bites, sometimes one restaurant makes a specific dish in a specific way you love, but other restaurants don't, so you only have that thing in that one place.
To be more specific, I started having sex in my teens and it was immediately kinky sex. I got in with a safe group that was very willing to walk me through it and they were very patient and let me figure out what I liked best without pressure. It's also not like, you pick a box and then you are forever stuck in that box, preferences change, just because you like subbing right now, doesn't mean you are now forever committed to the sub box.
And as for the "is my kink weird?" question, it's not. People like all sorts of things for all sorts of reasons, sometimes people get into a thing because they played that one game with Grimdark Mickey Mouse at exactly the wrong age.
I'm into pain and it's obviously because I first discovered my healing power when I was six and it crossed some wires. I'm not torn up about it.
And also like, no one ever questions why they prefer one flavor of ice-cream over another. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, then be into whatever you're into.
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SOMEHOW
"hey let me take the scar of that injury i half took from u last month"
has not come up
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I know you're not invincible. Please don't act too recklessly.
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lit. cannot be defeated in a fight
unless someone has a gun. i can ttly be defeated by a gun.
i can also be defeated by beheading
or heart removal
not by staking tho
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and even if u did, we're CONNECTED now
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(╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻
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but i think i make top 5
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And you're wrong, my top five are Blue, Ronan, Adam, Marcus, and...
[ dammit. he is right. ]
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but we'll both know it's me
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It's Nate, probably. Or maybe I just have a Top 4.
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WHAT??????????????
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just thought you'd like the practice.
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...I had a question but idk if I can ask it now.
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except maybe i'll be a lil hurt if u dont wanna pierce my dick. it's a great dick.
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Is that much understood?
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Good bc...
It's
a sex question.
Kind of?
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I won't think it's weird, I won't laugh, and I won't make a huge deal out of it.
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I'm just wondering. If- Do you remember last month when your vampire friend was polling everyone on are you a top or submissive, etc. How do you- how do you figure out something like that.
Because until... really just months before arriving, the idea of having sex with someone never- I just didn't think much of it. Then by the time the inclination did occur to me, it wasn't a priority.
And now things are different, obviously. Sex is fun... especially with Blue, like very fun. But also- surprising? In that there are certain things that I really liked or wanted, but didn't expect necessarily. And sometimes I feel like that's the more interesting part? But sometimes the things that I want are. Contradictory? Or. Different depending on the person.
Or... makes me... kind of anxious also. Because of- another reason.
How do I know if it- it's just a sex thing, or something [ weird? fucked up? latent trauma expressed as irregular attachment issues?? ] ...else?
Also this entire conversation is privileged and you are sworn to secrecy Andy.
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On the Dom/sub and top/bottom thing, it's a thing you figure out with experience. It's like going to a restaurant and ordering an unfamiliar dish, sometimes it's just not your thing, sometimes it takes a few bites, sometimes one restaurant makes a specific dish in a specific way you love, but other restaurants don't, so you only have that thing in that one place.
To be more specific, I started having sex in my teens and it was immediately kinky sex. I got in with a safe group that was very willing to walk me through it and they were very patient and let me figure out what I liked best without pressure. It's also not like, you pick a box and then you are forever stuck in that box, preferences change, just because you like subbing right now, doesn't mean you are now forever committed to the sub box.
And as for the "is my kink weird?" question, it's not. People like all sorts of things for all sorts of reasons, sometimes people get into a thing because they played that one game with Grimdark Mickey Mouse at exactly the wrong age.
I'm into pain and it's obviously because I first discovered my healing power when I was six and it crossed some wires. I'm not torn up about it.
And also like, no one ever questions why they prefer one flavor of ice-cream over another. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, then be into whatever you're into.