Okay, first, I'm gonna use proper capitalization so you know I'm serious about this. I'll never talk to anyone else about this, you're very safe.
On the Dom/sub and top/bottom thing, it's a thing you figure out with experience. It's like going to a restaurant and ordering an unfamiliar dish, sometimes it's just not your thing, sometimes it takes a few bites, sometimes one restaurant makes a specific dish in a specific way you love, but other restaurants don't, so you only have that thing in that one place.
To be more specific, I started having sex in my teens and it was immediately kinky sex. I got in with a safe group that was very willing to walk me through it and they were very patient and let me figure out what I liked best without pressure. It's also not like, you pick a box and then you are forever stuck in that box, preferences change, just because you like subbing right now, doesn't mean you are now forever committed to the sub box.
And as for the "is my kink weird?" question, it's not. People like all sorts of things for all sorts of reasons, sometimes people get into a thing because they played that one game with Grimdark Mickey Mouse at exactly the wrong age.
I'm into pain and it's obviously because I first discovered my healing power when I was six and it crossed some wires. I'm not torn up about it.
And also like, no one ever questions why they prefer one flavor of ice-cream over another. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, then be into whatever you're into.
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On the Dom/sub and top/bottom thing, it's a thing you figure out with experience. It's like going to a restaurant and ordering an unfamiliar dish, sometimes it's just not your thing, sometimes it takes a few bites, sometimes one restaurant makes a specific dish in a specific way you love, but other restaurants don't, so you only have that thing in that one place.
To be more specific, I started having sex in my teens and it was immediately kinky sex. I got in with a safe group that was very willing to walk me through it and they were very patient and let me figure out what I liked best without pressure. It's also not like, you pick a box and then you are forever stuck in that box, preferences change, just because you like subbing right now, doesn't mean you are now forever committed to the sub box.
And as for the "is my kink weird?" question, it's not. People like all sorts of things for all sorts of reasons, sometimes people get into a thing because they played that one game with Grimdark Mickey Mouse at exactly the wrong age.
I'm into pain and it's obviously because I first discovered my healing power when I was six and it crossed some wires. I'm not torn up about it.
And also like, no one ever questions why they prefer one flavor of ice-cream over another. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, then be into whatever you're into.